What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and control own emotions as well as of others. An emotionally intelligent person knows how to handle emotions of others.
Emotional intelligence has been defined as,
“the ability to monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior”.By Peter Salovey and John Mayer
Importance of Emotional Intelligence
- Better for performing as a team – because you know how to manage your as well as others’ emotions.
- Teaches you to adjust in different environments, with different people or with different approaches. In short, make you flexible, adaptable and adjustable.
- When you know how to deal with your own feelings and that of others’ you’re less stressed.
- As per Baron (1997), people with higher EI tend to perform better than those with lower EI in life overall, regardless of IQ.
Here is a video by TED Talks on the Power of Emotional Intelligence:
Features of Emotional Intelligence
- Self Awareness – This is about evaluating self and getting awareness about own emotions.
- Self Regulation – When you know how to regulate your negative feelings and emotions. Once you achieved this you can handle the conflicts easily.
- Motivation – Once you know about your own emotion, you become self motivated.
- Empathy – To understand, how others are feeling or how I should respond to their feelings.
- Social Skills – This is how you want to manage their feeling and emotions.
How to Check your Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is measured as EQ (Emotional Quotient) and Psychtests has the free facility to self check your Emotional Intelligence.
Tips to Improve Emotional Intelligence
- Speak with respect and positivity to others.
- Stay calm in stress or conflict situations
- Learn the art of listening to others with patience before speaking.
- Inculcate feeling of positivity all the time.
- Always welcome your critics, analyse what they’re criticizing in you, try to change if it’s relevant or actual criticism.
- Be social
- Observe your emotions and how you feel with that.
- Stay away from negativity.
- Write about your emotions and the best way to overcome it in your daily journal. You can write it on my twitter @shikha_vashisth with #myemotions.
- Talk with your near and dear when you’re stressed or depressed.